10 Tips for Positive Parenting Featured

Written by  Susan Stroebel Tuesday, 26 January 2016 16:41

10 Tips for positive Parenting

1. Be consistent. Children get confused and don’t know what to expect when rules change (NCPCA)

2. Be a role model: Children learn many things including kindness, compassion, tolerance, patience and honesty from watching you. They learn how to handle stress and a crisis by watching what you do in those situations.

3. When you are wrong, say you are sorry. Your children can learn from you when you take responsibility for your actions. They can learn from your mistakes too if you take the time to explain what you did wrong and how you would like to handle it next time. You can even make it a lesson for family devotionals and have them help you practice the wrong way and right way.

4. Get down to their level. Eye to eye communication let’s both of you know that you are present and clearly engaged in the moment. If your child is easily distracted, ask them to repeat back what you told them.

5. Give choices: give your child choices wherever possible. This teaches them that their ideas are important and valuable. It also helps them to be more willing to give you control when needed.

6. Have some predictable routines in your day. Try to stick to them as much as possible. Family dinners, bedtime stories, bathtub play....these things will help both you and your child get through the day. For older children Family nights and mentoring times can give them a time and place to bring up concerns and know that you will be available to help problem solve.

7. Praise them for what they do. There is always something to praise them for, Effort, creativity, communication, honesty....take the time to find what they are doing right. This encourages respect, positive behavior and self esteem.

8. Nurture yourself. Self care is a tough concept to learn (as many of us know). Saying” I need a break” and taking a few minutes to regroup will teach your children to do the same. Having your own rituals that you make priorities like quiet times, exercise and date nights will give them a good model to follow. It is great to include them occasionally in some of these activities as well.

9. Create memories. A relaxed carry out dinner may be a better option that at 3 course meal if you are exhausted and cranky. Make your standard about “How will my family benefit” instead of “what would Martha do”.

10. Set realistic goals. You and your family can be beautifully imperfect. Don’t set goals that are unrealistic or everyone will be discouraged. Take the time to reassess often and extend lots of grace. Start with yourself!



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